Questions in the family



I don't normally write about Cameron (Jordan's almost nine-year-old brother) on this blog since he's learning to blog on his own webpage, but we had a moment today that I think is worth sharing.  Not long after I picked up Cameron from school this afternoon, we had an unexpected conversation:



Cam: "Mom? Did Jordan have cancer?"
Me: "No! Where did you get that idea?"
Cam: "Oh, we were talking about sickness at school and I thought Jordan has cancer when she was a baby."
Me: "You told your class that?"
Cam: "Uh, yeah."
Me: "Some things are unexplained.  Jordan was born the way she was just because."
Cam (almost immediately): "Did you smoke?"
*my brain explodes*
Me: "No! I didn't even take a Tylenol!"

Oh wow.  This conversation ended just about as abruptly as it started since I was dropping Cam off at his piano lesson.  It took me a few moments to adjust to that conversation.  It caught me off-guard.  I didn't expect it.  I guess all this time where we've talked about how "Jordan was born this way," I had assumed Cameron was listening.



The cancer thing? Apparently Cameron tells me he was thinking about cancer and just guessed that cancer is why she is missing a hand.  He decided to jump to this conclusion without checking in with his parents.  I talked to him a bit more about it before he went to bed tonight.  Cam just didn't know.  Thewhole "she was born that way" reasoning didn't make sense.  I explained to him a couple of theories of how Jordan's heart may have just blipped for a moment when she was first growing and her left arm didn't grow like the other one or the possibility she had a blood clot in her arm that stopped the growth.  But we just don't know.  I asked him to ask me questions instead of jump to conclusions.  I also let him know that I love him a ton.

We talked to Cam about Jordan when she was born...  but we never really felt the need to talk about it again.  But he was four years old when she was a baby.  Five years later, I guess it makes sense that we need to refresh the conversation and make it a little more grown up.  Another lesson learned as we ride this wild limb difference ride.